My husband is addicted to gambling online. We have been married for 6 years and have 3 children together, and I cant decide weather its worth it to stay with him anymore. He has cycles it seems because as of now its been probably a year since he has played but in the last few days, while sneaking on his account, he is starting again! This is how it always happens, very slowly. Just a little here and there but before he stops again it will be hundreds or thousands of dollars and me threatening to leave. I quit work a few months ago to stay home with the kids and there is no way we could ever afford for him to lose any money much less hundreds or more. My biggest problem now is that I dont have a job and so no money to support myself without him. I dont know what to do anymore. Do I just sit and take it because I cant leave?? Please help!
I have begun to think about our relationship more in the last few months and I was very young when i marred him. He has been walking all over me for years and i have let him do it. I have worked at banks for years and have closed accounts, cancelled credit cards and debit cards, cancelled internet, Ive dont almost everything possible except file charges when he has used accts without his name on them. He always manages to find a way. Hes gone as far as stealing his mothers debit card number and running up 600 bucks on her checking acct in one night.
I think the biggest red flag is that no matter how far it has gotten he is convinced that his gambling will eventually pay off and that by him playing, one day he will hit a big jackpot and all our troubles will be over. No arguing can convince him otherwise.
close out any joint credit cards or you'll be stuck with the debt too and yes, leave him and file for child support right away-cancel the internet first, so it slows him down-see if there is someone you can stay with
holly crap i thought i was the only one. when ever you actually find a Solution to this problem let me know how you did it i also have been married for 6 years and i finally just gave up. i would just get another job and try not to let it bother you.good luck
The first thing to do is switch out the money into a bank account that ONLY has your name on it. Tell your husband AFTER you've done this, and no matter how angry he gets do NOT allow him access to the account. Tell him that gambling, like drugs or alcohol is HIGHLY addictive...and why there are thousands of Gambling Anonymous groups worldwide. Like any addiction, gambling destroys not only the lives of the addict, but the family as well. Take his problem very seriously, do a little research online about gambling addiction. You cannot sit and take this because you're not financially stable right now....leave things as they are and you'll be broke anyway. Take matters into your own hands first by taking control of the money. Tell your husband that he either gets help immediately (he can't quit on his own, it won't work) or he'll have to leave. Start job hunting, you have kids to feed and bills to pay.....in other words get yourself prepared to stand alone. There are support groups for families of gambling addicts, find an online chapter or local chapter and join...you'll need the support, and also the strength and tools it takes to "turn your back". Unfortunately in most addiction cases it's what has to be done in order to put sanity back into your life. My words may sound "dooming", but take it from me, gambling doesn't just go away....it will repeat itself until you're left financially devestated. Much luck!!
Once that gambling gets into your blood it's a hard thing to just stop. I've known many family's who were in great debt because their husbands had a bad gambling problem. I can tell you when it gets to this stage, it's never over. I would ask that if you have a family to go and stay with, I would because there is no real fix it's just going to get worst.
You cannot post new topics in this forum You cannot reply to topics in this forum You cannot edit your posts in this forum You cannot delete your posts in this forum You cannot vote in polls in this forum
